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Virginia Brewer's avatar

If people get mad at you when you take their advice but it doesn't work for you, then normal doesn't work for them, either! Hugs and million!!

Asha's avatar

Hi Zetie’s mommy. We are sorry glad you joined and had to ask who you were 🤪 you are right most people are not ‘normal’ whatever that is and we still get reprimanded often for not ‘doing the work’ right

Virginia Brewer's avatar

Hi. Asha, I just had my usual Sunday AM chat with Diana. She told me about how her moniker Zetie came to be. Excellent solution! I'm really glad that you don't think "normal" is a word that applies 100% to anyone. I should know: I was a professional oboist. While it isn't true that oboists are all crazy, we're a quirky but mostly loveable bunch. Hugs!

Tami Griffeth's avatar

This is great advice for anyone, to be there for the good, bad and in-between.

Asha's avatar

Thank you Tami this one meant a great deal to us.

Julie Saeger Nierenberg's avatar

May you feel lots of support, virtual and the real physical kind. Sending you a hug and lots of loving kindness.

Asha's avatar

Julie you are always so kind. Thank you for the virtual hug

Julie Saeger Nierenberg's avatar

Aw, shucks, Asha. What a sweetheart you are!

Jana T's avatar

Hugs and holding you in the dark with my parts that want simply to be hold as well...

Asha's avatar

Jana you are amazing. Virtual hugs to all of you as well.

Virginia Brewer's avatar

Hi, Asha, thank you for your extremely well written & moving words. I learned from my late mentally ill brother how wounding "sensible" advice is. Most of us on the "normal" spectrum have no clue about how to just be with people with mental illness. You have given us a clue.

Asha's avatar

Virginia you are so kind and we are sorry about you brother. We usually do not mind someone making suggestions or offering advice (even when it won’t work for us) but the hard part is when we get blamed for it not working. If normal worked we probably would have figured it out by now. So glad you are getting something out of the blog that is our goal.